But, after being back at work for a couple weeks and getting back to normal life, I’m feeling better about things. After all, there are a lot of great things about our life here:
– We both have really great jobs that we enjoy most of the time
– We both work in research groups that are renowned in their respective fields
– We can easily afford our four-bedroom house in a gorgeous, old neighborhood because the housing prices here are much lower than many other cities in Canada
– We absolutely adore Evan’s daycare
– There aren’t many places in Canada that have a shorter or more mild winter (BC obviously has better weather in this regard, though I don’t know if I could deal with the constant rain)
– We’re within driving distance of lots of cool places for weekend getaways or longer vacations
The two things that aren’t great right now are: 1) absolutely no family nearby (both our families are small and everyone lives out west) and 2) not many close friends.
Most of the friends we made during graduate school have left the city. I suppose that’s one of the perils of staying in the city where you did graduate school: most people end up leaving to get jobs elsewhere. This seems to be a common problem of people in our age group. It’s just plain tough to make close friends as you get older. Maybe that’s just how it goes: unless you stay in the same place for a long time where you already have a group of friends, you just don’t have close friends at this age.
I’m not sure if we can change these two things, if we just have to accept things how they are, or if these two things will outweigh all the good things here. Time will tell, and we’re always keeping our options open.